Popular?

I've just finished an amazing book and I really want to share it with you. It's about how to be popular. Something I believe many of us wonder about. At least I can say for sure that since the day I first stepped in school I've always had different thoughts about it. I used to think that popular people are pretty, slim, sporty, liked by everyone, well basically perfect human beings. But we know there's no such a thing as a perfect human being, right? I am not really sure why I got that image, probably because of typical American teen movies with cliques and everything (And I still enjoy watching them haha). I am still not sure if American high schools function like that? I am a bit confused, because it is even in the books! And that brings me to another question: are popular people always mean? If I searched for the answer (again) in the books and movies I would have to say "yes". But I believe in real life that's not true. There probably are some mean ones out there too, but if you want to be popular in real world, isn't that basically being liked by many? How can you possibly be liked if you're mean? I admit that whenever I spot someone popular (I mean how do I even know? it's not like it's written on their foreheads or something haha), I always feel a bit intimidated. I know it's wrong, but some of them just seem cold to me. Of course there are some really nice and friendly ones as well, but I don't often have a chance to see that, because I don't have the courage to start a conversation with them. I just always think that they will look down on me because I am not as pretty and trendy as them. That's another thing that I've noticed: popular people are usually naturally pretty and if they're not naturally gorgeous, they still look amazing because they think  they are. They always have perfect make up, nails, hair...that makes your wonder how much time they spend on those things? But I don't mean it in a negative way, I think every girl/woman should spend some time for themselves. Whether you do your nails, try new hairstyle or just watch another episode of your favourite series....you should always have time to show some love for yourself. If you're content with yourself, you have this kind of happy glow around you, that just attracts people. I still have some work to do about that. I believe the secret lies in being confident and open to others. If you have this kind of attitude, people just go to you and try to be your friends. You just have to take time for your friends, really listen to them and make them feel special and aware that you care about them. If people see how wonderful you are, they'll want to have you as their friend too. And if you ask the popular people if they consider themselves popular, you could be surprised to get a "no". So...is that just something we, less socially active teens had invented? Who is actually popular? I believe that everyone has its own definition. For me it is someone who likes himself/herself, treats himself/herself and others nicely, is outgoing, friendly, always ready to help or make new friends and interacts with a lot of people. Sooo, if that's true, anyone can be popular, right? You just have to find the courage to speak to people, because mostly they're just like you, waiting for someone to start a conversation with them. After reading this book I will definitely try to make some new friends next year and if you want to, you can try it with me as well? :) Of course there's nothing wrong with sticking with your squad, this is just for those who like me often have this kind of thoughts "I am on the same bus with this girl every day...should I say "hi" and introduce myself? Oh no, she doesn't seem like she wants to talk to me. But I seem very distant too, don't I? Well, maybe I really should..." *steps forward to the girl* "Oh no, who am I kidding, she will think I am a total weirdo." This is so me haha...But I am ready to change, because I really can't stay this shy my whole life! Just think how many wonderful friendships I am missing out! It kind of makes me sad. These are just my thoughts. I hope you enjoyed the post and that I presented the word "popular" in a new way. If you want more about this topic, definitely read this amazing book: Maya Van Wagenen: Popular. And comment your thoughts about it! Lots of love to you all lovelies and best of luck if you still have exams! <333

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